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How to Write a Successful Personal Ad

All right, after days or months of unsuccessful approaches in bars, pubs, you have decided to search for the love not in the wrong places and decided to look for the one in a few of the many online dating services. There are three important factors in online dating that can instantly lead you to success rather than another failure.
  • A solid and stunning personal ad.
  • A genuine picture with a warm smile of yours.
  • Writing effective emails to your matches.
But, here we'll discuss how to write a personal ad that could make a difference:
  • Always, reveal your age correctly from the start as honesty and trust is the most important factor for a successful online dating relationship.
  • Describe yourself accurately. Doesn't matter what it is the question (height, weight, religion, etc..), give accurate answers. Don't try to draw a perfect profile, as nobody wants a perfect date but a genuine date.
  • Be clear about why are you here, what you're looking for in that dating site.
  • Don't go into to much detail what kind of match you're looking for too early as you don't want to eliminate matches so early in the game.
  • In your words, try to show your optimistic view of life, sound optimistic in your ad.
  • Don't stuff your ad with lots of words or a long history of yourself. Remember, you're not writing a boring resumé for a job interview, you're trying to get the attention of your potential dates. So leave spaces when necessary.
  • Show your sense of humor with making a joke about yourself.
  • If you have writing skills. Try to write your personal ad like an adventure novel which the other side cannot get enough of but don't finish the story so soon. Leave a page for questions.
  • Leave a question mark about yourself and on the other side; be honest, accurate, funny, serious and most important of all, mysterious.
  • Check for your grammar or any other errors before you complete your ad.
It's been researched and proven that in the new millennium, matching success rates are hundred times more in online dating than offline dating. But that does not mean that you'll be successful nevertheless. Everything good in life needs a bit effort and work. So if you really want to find your other half and build a serious relationship you must care for the candidates and put together a good profile with a shining personal ad and a picture. You care for your potential matches and they will take care of you.

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How to forget your Boyfriend (or Girlfriend)

Sometimes you have times when you think that you're having the worst time of your life. Nothing goes well with your boyfriend. He doesn't understand you, he doesn't call you as much as he did before. He doesn't share your enthusiasm while you're talking to him. He often comes late to your rendezvous. He even forgets to do the things you have decided to do before. He looks careless, and the worst, a bit bored from the relationship.

Just think for a moment, you may be attracted to him still, but everyone has his/her own ways of living, his/her own goals and ideas about life. Maybe you've been boring him with your expectations all the time, anyway. The first thing to do is to look at yourself in the mirror and find out your own faults. Try to respect his ideas, try to think from his point of view and make him realize that you also have your own ways of dealing with these problems. In time, hopefully he may begin to respect you and your ideas, and maybe you can find a way somewhere in the middle.

If you think that your efforts are hopeless, then let him go. May be this is all because that he's finished with the relationship in his mind, or may be the loving feelings have faden away. You don't have any time to lose for none including him. Although it's hard to bare a separation sometimes, and it looks like the world has come to an end, you must get through this period with as less damage as possible.

I cannot say stop thinking about him and probably you won't stop thinking about him for a while, anyway. Your hand will go to the the phone each and everyday and you cannot stop thinking of calling him. You'll want to hear his voice especially the times you feel yourself lonely. That's perfectly normal but unfortunately it's a waste of your time from your precious but short life. So what you must do to get over your past relationships?
  • Open a brand new page in your life.
  • Remember all the endings are like a closing door which is opening a new window to your beginnings.
  • Concentrate on yourself. Never stay at home listening to romantic songs that reminds you of him.
  • Try not to visit the places that you used to go together.
  • Get rid of the photos, and delete his number from your mobile. That will help you stay away from the thought of calling him.
  • Meet new people. Make new friends.
  • Try to date with new guys frequently, but avoid going out with people that you don't really like because that will remind you how good you were with your ex.
  • Find yourself new hobbies that can keep you occupied and busy.
  • Devote yourself to your work.
  • Let the time sweep away those memories and feelings from your heart.
You must know in your life, there's only one person, you can control, yourself. You cannot control anyone other than yourself and sometimes things happen as it shouldnt happen. Some happenings occur to put us to advantage and sometimes we'll discover later in our lives. All you have to do is to decide what to do with the time that's given to you. Let go of your life or grab hold of it. Remember my friend, yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. You and only you can change it to your favor.

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How to Make Online Dating Work for You

Online dating has started as a last resort of the social misfit, to one of the most active methods to meet people. For those people out there who have busy lives or may be dealing with a lot of shyness issues, you should take a look at online resources as an excellent tool to expand your dating circle. You need to determine your current dating goal before you go any further. What is it that you want from your online interaction with the other sex?
  • Friendship? Someone to talk to?
  • Romance?
  • A short-term or long-term relationship?
  • Casual dating with many boy/girlfriends?
  • Marriage?
After determining your current goals, you must take action accordingly. Your first action should be writing a personal ad to make your profile shine:
  • Be creative and different to spark the interest of the other sex.
  • Never look like you need to be approved in your ad or in your life.
  • Start with an appealing romantic imagery and mix in some humor.
  • Write your ad poetically and non-specifically. Listing out your hobbies or writing must haves is kind of suicidal in this huge sea of fishes and will only make you lose in the online dating game.
Unfortunately the game does not end here. Uploading photos of yourself is essential for a successful profile:
  • Your portrait photo (first photo) is the first to be seen in your profile and is the most important, so choose it wisely.
  • Do not upload pictures in which you think you look the most good looking but you look the happiest. The warmth of a smile can melt the ice of others hearts.
  • Try to find pictures where you participated in interesting activities such as surfing, dancing, playing an instrument, etc.
Now you are ready for starting enjoying the advantages of online dating but the game is still not over yet. The last and the most important action is sending emails that can make effect:

  • Always include one personal item that tells the potential date that you've read her/his profile. Do not just drool on the picture.
  • Be funny, creative, different, challenging her/his sensibilities and approachable.
  • Remember some profiles are getting hundreds of emails everyday, so this is the area you must sparkle. So always send custom-written letters. Never try the copy-paste approach.
  • If he/she replies to you, you've already started progress, do not wait too long to take the relationship to the next level to offline dating or somebody else will.You must keep in mind that dating is not an easy game and needs hard work, even years of loving relationships need it. Online dating is no different and needs determination and commitment. So the point is: Online dating will work for you, if you make it work for you. Good things do not come to those who wait, but to those who go and get them.

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    How To Keep Online Dating Safe

    With online dating you date at your pace and you never have to reveal any personal details about yourself unless you wish to do so. Here are some online and offline dating tips for you for practicing:

    First Step: Online dating
    • Do not include any personal information in your profile, Reputable dating sites have a privacy policy so that their members can be part of a safe online dating environment and any personal information given will not be revealed to others.
    • Take your time getting to know someone online before giving any personal information about yourself and before arranging to meet him/her.
    • Don't lie in your profile or upload a fake photograph. Do you want to meet someone who is faking his/her identity or photo?
    • It is a good idea to set up a free email account like yahoo. This way you do not have to use your main personal email address in the event that you no longer wish to have contact with a member.
    • Be careful if you think a member is lying to you. Beware of someone who pressurizes you for anything inc. personal details or an early date.
    • If someone is making you feel uncomfortable stop messaging him/her. Reputable dating sites provide features for you to report inappropriate messaging or even blocking these users.
    Next Step: Offline dating
    • If you would like to meet someone "offline" only reveal minimal information to begin with. Start with your email address and then maybe your mobile. As email and even phone number can be changed easily if necessary.
    • If you call another member use the "block my number" feature to prevent your number appearing on his/her phone.
    • If you arrange to meet someone, always make sure the meeting point is in a public place and preferably in daylight for the first meeting. Always let someone else know who you are going to meet, where you are going and what time you should be back home.
    • If you are drinking alcohol, don't drink too much and never leave your drink unattended.
    • Finally, be sensible and trust your instincts ... they are usually right.
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    What To Do or Not Do on a First Date

    Did you know 80% of potential relationships end after the first date? So what must you do to avoid using the patterns that will lead you to a certain failure? The first date, especially after a long online dating period can be a very nervous experience and high expectations of building a relationship may put a lot of pressure on you. So what must you do to ease the anxiety? What must you do to take your chances to a second date?
    • Choose a place where you can be able to make an uninterrupted conversation with your date. Never take your date to the movies as you can't start to get to know your date, neither can he/she.
    • Be at this place on time. Not earlier or later.
    • Look your best; be presentable and comfortable. Wear clothes that make you feel good. Buying new clothes is a good idea but if you don't have the time, be sure that they are clean and tidy.
    • Do not try to be more or different than yourself, always be yourself.
    • Make your date comfortable. Find something nice about your date, make a compliment and leave it there. Do not over compliment.
    • Be creative, funny and flirting. Putting a smile on your dates' face may sweep away the nervous feelings you both use to have.
    • On your 1st date don't talk too much about yourself, take your time and pay attention to your date. Remember you are being tested by your date and you should also be testing your date.
    • If you are unsure about yourself at that time our you feel like your date is to good to be with you, you must clear of your mind from those poisonous questions as it will make you more nervous than you should be.
    • Be honest about yourself. This is not a marketing game. Lying or exaggerating about yourself could only destroy your chances of a potential relationship.
    • If you feel like everything is going well, ask for a second date but do not wait for a confirmation right away or overly repeat asking.
    • At the end of your first date, always thank your date for the nice time you had and if you feel like she or he is not ready for the first kiss, save it for later.
    The first date can be a nerve-racking and uneasy event for both parts but always remember you're the prize to be won. If your date does not value you or your time, it's her/his loss and you must carry on with your life. There'll always be plenty of chances for you to find the right person.

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    Acknowledgements

    Who is the man in charge ... Cenk Butunley is the founder of MyBestDate.com, an online dating service company serving internationally. He has specialized in software engineering since 1998, including three years as a Senior Developer for Bromcom Computers, a software publishing company.

    You might date Chet here ... Cenk Butunley ... I am not the jealous type.
    And of course, his site is ... My Best Date ... just be sure you return.

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